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4 Important Life Skills to Have a Better Relationship with Yourself

Relationships are hard, and finding information about how to have a better relationship with a significant other, friend, or family member is easy. However, no one is talking about the most important relationship there is. Your relationship with yourself.

Your relationship with yourself should be number one priority above a relationship with anyone else. After all, those other folks may come and go, but you are only stuck with one person forever: yourself.

Of course, having a good self-relationship is also healthy for you! It reduces stress and anxiety, provides more quality of life, and tends to have a positive impact on relationships with others in your life. So, in order to help you build a better relationship with yourself, we have outlined four skills to creating a positive self-relationship.

Take Care of Yourself

This one might seem like a no brainer, and yet it still seems to be the step that gets pushed to the bottom of the to-do list. Taking care of yourself is crucial to your health and ultimately to your happiness.

This step includes eating healthy, satisfying meals. Getting enough sleep at night. Making the appropriate time to exercise and allowing yourself to participate in activities that help to reduce your stress.

Further, taking care of your mental health is necessary for not only your well-being, but the well-being of the people who are in your daily life. Mental health is still a bit of a taboo subject, but it is okay to seek help in this area if you feel you need you.

Take Time to Reflect

Reflecting on your day-to-day life can create a lot of joy and peace in your world. There are a lot of ways that you can accomplish reflection, but I think making the time to do this is crucial. After all, in any other relationship, the cornerstone for building that relationship is to make time for the other person. Make time to be with yourself.

Meditation has become a popular practice for self-reflection in this day and age. Less dedicated, but equally beneficial is the practice of mindfulness which is a guided thinking/breathing practice that imitates meditation in some ways. Journaling, blogging, and video blogging are all also popular ways of reflecting.

But if none of these ideas strike a chord with you, simply getting some quiet time in the morning with a cup of coffee can be an excellent choice for quiet, reflection time.

Splurge on Yourself

Think about the last time you were in a relationship. Splurging on your friends, significant other, or even on your family can be a way to show your love and appreciation for that other person. With that in mind, spending a little extra cash on something special for yourself is an excellent way to show yourself some extra love.

This does not have to be an elaborate purchase either. Do you love bath bombs, but have run out because it is three months after Christmas? Go buy one. Want to try a new type of Starbucks coffee? Run through the drive through! Seriously, go splurge on yourself right now, and do not even think about feeling guilty as you do it.

Do Something Fun for Yourself

Lastly, do something a little fun for yourself every now and then. We all have guilty pleasures that we enjoy doing by ourselves. Make time for those and do not let anyone keep you from enjoying them.

We all deserve a little “me” time. Making time for yourself, and building a better relationship with yourself will only improve your quality of life on all fronts.

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4 Lifeskills that Help You Take Great Care of Yourself

Taking care of yourself is hard. Taking care of yourself is even harder when you have other obligations like a full-time job, or children, or both! Yet, taking care of yourself is necessary.

Learning to take care of yourself is easy through developing four life-skills that significantly improve your quality of life. People who take care of themselves well tend to be less stressed, have better relationships, and achieve greater success. Read on to learn about the four life skills that can change your life for the better!

Maintaining a neat and Organized Home

Clutter and disorganization are the number one killers of productivity within a house. If you have a disorganized, messy, or cluttered home then gaining control of that mess should be your number one priority. Keeping a neat and organized home does not come naturally for many people, so it truly is a life skill that many people will have to work to master.

The truth of the matter is that living in chaos is not good for your mental health. If keeping your home neat and organized is something you struggle with, then it may be worth your time and money to hire a professional organizer to get the mess under control!

Coming home to a neat and organized home is essential to maintaining a healthy mindset in your living space. It is even more important if you spend any time at all working from home because clutter kills your productivity!

Actively Engaging in Self-Care

Self-care comes in a myriad of different packages. Put simply, engaging in self-care means giving yourself permission to do whatever it is that you need. Whether you need to work out, see a doctor, indulge in a hobby, or go on a date! Self-care looks different for each and every one of us, but it is also important for each and every one of us.

I will use mothers as an example. Mothers tend to put off spending money on themselves making sure, first, that all of the children’s’ wants and needs are covered before her own. However, parents have needs too. If you need a haircut, schedule a guilt free shampoo, cut, and style. If you need a new pair of jeans, then drop the kids with grandma and go on a shopping spree.

Giving yourself permission to take care of yourself is a crucial life skill that has to be mastered. Doing so without guilt is an even harder life skill that also has to be mastered. Putting yourself first does not mean you are not a good person. In fact, it means you are working to be the best person that you can be.

Building Quality Friendships

Friendships are important. Quality friendships are hard to find, and I have found that the further into life I get the harder friendships are to come by. Building quality friendships may not be easy, but the reward is absolutely worth it.

Having friends to share life with enriches your quality of life in a way that you cannot achieve alone. Friends are a form of self-care that you obviously cannot get from yourself. Social health can determine your mental, emotional and physical health.

Building these friendships is a life-skill and it may take some work if it does not come naturally to you.

Creating and Working Toward Realistic Goals

Setting small goals is a great way to boost your desire to keep working toward larger goals.
Through reaching small goals, we are encouraged to keep working toward our larger goals, that small bit of success pushes us to keep working. Some of us may have a tendency to set large goals to start with, but if you can learn to break those goals into smaller pieces, then you will allow yourself a larger reward in the end.

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5 Stress Relievers for Hard Times

If life is a series of valleys and peaks, right now we’re riding a rollercoaster through the depths of the valleys. We are low, on a global level, right now. It’s in these difficult times where you need more guidance and support.

The problem is, we can’t seek our normal support system because everyone is in the same position. Everyone is stressed out, feeling vulnerable and at risk. However, there are plenty of at-home stress soothers you can try that will help get you through these hard times.

  1. Focus On Your Control

One of the most stressful aspects of this difficult time is the lack of control we feel. What you have to do to soothe yourself is focus on what you can control, rather than everything you can’t control. There are so many things that are beyond your control right now.

What you can control is your home. So, create a dirty zone and a clean zone. What does that mean? The dirty zone should either be directly outside of your home or just inside it. It’s where you should remove your shoes and outwear and wash down your phone, wallet, purse, etc. before coming into your home. This will help limit the risk. You should also wipe down any packaging that you bring into your home, whether it’s food shopping or a takeout.

  1. A Meditation Minute

You will find a lot of relaxing in meditation. It’s a powerful practice that you should continue long after these days are left behind. For now, make it the first thing you do every morning (and do it throughout the day, too). Just close your eyes and breathe deeply, slowly inhale through your nose and hold it for a beat or two before you exhale it out of your mouth. That’s a simple meditation to get you started and help relieve some of the stress your body is holding.

  1. Keep Moving

Do not underestimate the value of exercise during these difficult days. There are plenty of easy exercises you can do at home, from push-ups, sit-ups, jumping jacks, and beyond. However, there’s something fun about random dancing. The beauty of this is that you can include the entire family. So, turn up some upbeat music and just have a dance party! You get to release all of your stresses while listening to great music.

  1. Breathe With Intention

If you pay attention to your breathing when you’re deeply stressed out, you’ll notice it’s rapid and shallow. You’re not breathing properly, it’s all in your chest. Guess what? That’s only going to perpetuate your stress levels. So, be intentional with your breathing and take deep, slow breaths in your diaphragm. How can you tell if you’re doing it right? The best way is to keep a hand on your belly and the other on your chest. Your ribcage and belly should expand with every inhalation of breath. Just be sure to exhale longer than you inhale.

  1. A Grounding Exercise

Using your senses will help ground you and relieve stress almost instantly. Find five things you can see, five things you can touch, five things you can smell, five things you can taste, and five things you can hear. It’s all about bringing your focus back to the present moment instead of stressing out about all the things you can’t control.

Just as an additional note, you may be tempted to smoke more often or drink to excess. While you feel that this is providing you with stress relief, it’s making it worse. Relying on stimulants and depressants to soothe stress is not going to go in your favor.