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5 Stress Relievers for Hard Times

If life is a series of valleys and peaks, right now we’re riding a rollercoaster through the depths of the valleys. We are low, on a global level, right now. It’s in these difficult times where you need more guidance and support.

The problem is, we can’t seek our normal support system because everyone is in the same position. Everyone is stressed out, feeling vulnerable and at risk. However, there are plenty of at-home stress soothers you can try that will help get you through these hard times.

  1. Focus On Your Control

One of the most stressful aspects of this difficult time is the lack of control we feel. What you have to do to soothe yourself is focus on what you can control, rather than everything you can’t control. There are so many things that are beyond your control right now.

What you can control is your home. So, create a dirty zone and a clean zone. What does that mean? The dirty zone should either be directly outside of your home or just inside it. It’s where you should remove your shoes and outwear and wash down your phone, wallet, purse, etc. before coming into your home. This will help limit the risk. You should also wipe down any packaging that you bring into your home, whether it’s food shopping or a takeout.

  1. A Meditation Minute

You will find a lot of relaxing in meditation. It’s a powerful practice that you should continue long after these days are left behind. For now, make it the first thing you do every morning (and do it throughout the day, too). Just close your eyes and breathe deeply, slowly inhale through your nose and hold it for a beat or two before you exhale it out of your mouth. That’s a simple meditation to get you started and help relieve some of the stress your body is holding.

  1. Keep Moving

Do not underestimate the value of exercise during these difficult days. There are plenty of easy exercises you can do at home, from push-ups, sit-ups, jumping jacks, and beyond. However, there’s something fun about random dancing. The beauty of this is that you can include the entire family. So, turn up some upbeat music and just have a dance party! You get to release all of your stresses while listening to great music.

  1. Breathe With Intention

If you pay attention to your breathing when you’re deeply stressed out, you’ll notice it’s rapid and shallow. You’re not breathing properly, it’s all in your chest. Guess what? That’s only going to perpetuate your stress levels. So, be intentional with your breathing and take deep, slow breaths in your diaphragm. How can you tell if you’re doing it right? The best way is to keep a hand on your belly and the other on your chest. Your ribcage and belly should expand with every inhalation of breath. Just be sure to exhale longer than you inhale.

  1. A Grounding Exercise

Using your senses will help ground you and relieve stress almost instantly. Find five things you can see, five things you can touch, five things you can smell, five things you can taste, and five things you can hear. It’s all about bringing your focus back to the present moment instead of stressing out about all the things you can’t control.

Just as an additional note, you may be tempted to smoke more often or drink to excess. While you feel that this is providing you with stress relief, it’s making it worse. Relying on stimulants and depressants to soothe stress is not going to go in your favor.

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Decluttering Your Mind

During this time of uncertainty, it is necessary that we do all we can to maintain clarity. Over the next few days, I ‘ll be posting information about decluttering your mind.

The word decluttering doesn’t just apply to housekeeping. In a household setting, decluttering refers to cleaning, general tidying, and eliminating things from the home that have become useless or obsolete.

The same concept can be applied to your mind. It’s the process of lowering the burden on your mind by eliminating unnecessary worry and thoughts.  This can be accomplished by making changes to your life and your thought processes. Although clutter is always caused by your mental processes, external events can serve as triggers. Eliminating the triggers is a powerful way to declutter your mind. But you can also have ineffective habits for dealing with stress, boredom, and uncertainty. Excessive thinking can be another form of mental clutter. It uses valuable resources and drains your ability to focus.

Your environment is another possible source of mental clutter. A cluttered environment isn’t conducive to a calm and relaxed attitude. The people in your life can also clutter your mind. It’s important to address every possible cause.

“When we clear the physical clutter from our lives, we literally make way for inspiration and good,orderly direction to enter.”

–  Julia Cameron

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6 Benefits Learning to Love Yourself

No matter how much the hardest among us deny this – we all have a desire to be loved. Often, it’s a romantic love that we crave. We are caught up in our loneliness and it’s normal to have a want for companionship. Though, romance isn’t everyone’s struggle or want – it may be a familial want or a platonic friendship. While, for some it may be a combination of all of these.

Rejection and hurt can leave us feeling unfulfilled and disillusioned with how we expect relationships to play out. When they don’t go as we want them to we often blame ourselves and wonder where we went wrong… that’s not what it’s about.

This is where learning to love yourself comes in – and that comes with some incredible benefits, here are six.

  1. You’ll Be Large & In Charge

Instead of making bad choices because you’re being led by shame, guilt or fear – you will be empowered to make choices that truly make sense for who you are – meaning you will be living your authentic life. You will no longer be caught up with people pleasing, instead you will live a life that brings you satisfaction. Self-love means trying to honor yourself because you know your needs are just as important as others.

  1. You Set Boundaries & Stick To Them

Once you have the hang of honoring your needs you start to feel more confident, which means you are more assertive. Of course, this results in a more purposeful attitude, especially when it comes to dating. You start to see who is wasting your time and you’re strong enough to move forward without them. More to the point, you are strong enough to set clear boundaries with people and stick to them.

  1. The Approval Seeking Will Stop

When you truly love yourself, you stop worrying about what everyone else thinks about you – which means you’re a less defensive person and more confident about living a life that is authentic for you. Why would you need acceptance from everyone else when you truly accept yourself?

  1. You Will Be A Conscious Decision Maker

Loving yourself gives you the courage to cut things from your life that don’t truly bring you joy or provide you with ample space to grow. It’s easy to make courageous decisions when you value yourself and actively make choices that are intended to honor you, rather than risk harming you.

  1. You Will Enjoy Alone Time

A lot of people get caught up in keeping busy schedules simply because they’re terrified of feeling or being alone. You surround yourself with people, throw yourself into work, and make decisions that help you avoid that loneliness. Why would you do all of the things that you don’t love? You could be filling that time with things that you actually enjoy doing – whether it’s meditation, swimming, writing or watching a movie. It doesn’t need to feel scary to spend time alone, you should enjoy time with yourself. Self-love brings more comfort when you’re spending time in your own company.

  1. Happiness

You don’t need to find happiness in relationships, whether they’re romantic or not. The only love that you truly need to be happy is the love of yourself. When you start taking responsibility for it and stop giving your power away to everyone else, you will naturally feel happier. If you’re not in a romantic relationship you will find that you aren’t as desperate to be in one as you once were because you know you don’t need them. When the right person shows up, you will be ready for that love.

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Navagating Peace of Mind

There have been many analogies used to describe your mind, but likening it to the ocean is a perfect comparison to living in today’s modern world. Like the sea, your mind is constantly moving, can be stirred up at any moment by ever-increasing storms and surges, and you always have to navigate around the pollutants that are ever-present.

Finding calm in the ocean is tough, as is finding peace of mind in our hectic, modern age. When you learn to reduce the influence of your thoughts on your actions and emotions, you can create a calmer sea in which to thrive. Learning to still your mind is a skill that must be practiced, but it is possible to develop peace of mind.

Peace of mind is merely a mental and emotional state of calmness. When you are at peace, you can let go of worries, anxiety, and other mental activities that disrupt your mind. One of the critical components of peace of mind is being present, which requires letting go of the past and not worrying about the future.

How to Create A Peaceful Mind

Like all other mental skills, creating peace in your mind must be practiced and learned. It’s not something that will just happen simply because you want it to, unfortunately. But, by practicing these strategies regularly, you can become more at peace and develop a calmer mindset that allows you to live in the present.


The most significant practice you can learn and perfect to develop peace of mind is meditation. The mindfulness you learn from regular, meditative practice is the cornerstone of all the other skills necessary for cultivating peace of mind. Learning to meditate and be mindful of how your emotions are affecting you and how your thoughts influence your behavior is crucial.

If you have never meditated before, try a guided practice that teaches you the basics and instills the tenets of this practice. There are not many, and it’s easy to learn with just a little practice.

Meditation reshapes your brain and how it is wired, allowing you to better cope with stress and push away negative thoughts as they intrude into your peace. Meditation practice can reduce anxiety, which is the most likely reason your mind is at unrest, as well.


Holding onto grudges for past mistakes is robbing you of inner peace. This type of negative thinking holds you down and keeps you living in anxiety and negativity, which rob you of your peace of mind. Learning to forgive is vital for moving on and finding joy and peace in your current world.

Worry Only About Yourself and God

When you are constantly thinking and worrying about what others may think of you or your choices, you will not be able to find peace. Fear of judgment creates the negative emotions that make finding peace of mind difficult. You will never please everyone, and others do not have to live your life or with the consequences of your actions. The only perons that has a heaven or hell to send you to is God. Stop caring what others think. You’ll be much happier and at peace.

Be Patient

Patience and tolerance go a long way in today’s hectic world. When you learn to accept that much is not in your control, you can better roll with the situations life hands you and take things for what they are.

Whether it is the behavior of others, the pace at which the world is moving, or even how much things cost, the only thing you can control is your reaction to these. Learning patience and tolerance can allow you to put your focus where it needs to be, which is you.

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10 Tips for Spiritual Wellness

When it comes to wellness, taking care of your body, mind, and emotions do not encompass all that you are. Tending to your spirit is just as important as the other pieces and can bring you tremendous satisfaction and peace. Your spiritual wellness includes your sense of purpose and meaning in life as well as the guiding principles behind your thoughts and actions.

How can you improve your spiritual wellness? You will need to explore strategies to find ones that work best for you and your needs, but here are our top ten spiritual wellness tips to get you started.

#1. Practice Gratitude

Being grateful for what you have in life that brings you joy, and peace is a wonderful way to recognize your own values. Take time each day to acknowledge your gratitude, and record your appreciation in you a journal. Send thank-you notes or messages to others who contribute to your spiritual growth and health, as well.

#2. Get to Know Your Spiritual Core

Understanding what drives you as a person and what brings meaning to your life is essential to spiritual wellness. Reflect on your values, your purpose, and your identity regularly to ensure you are aligning your beliefs with your behaviors and feel confident in your choices. Regular reflection helps you recognize and address problems in your spirituality before they become too large to manage.

#3. Work On Self-Acceptance

Tending to your spirit means being comfortable with who you are and what you believe. Accepting that you are unique in this world and that you don’t have to agree with or be like anyone else means you are confident in your mission and choices in life.

#4 Explore the World

Exploring the world, even if it’s just within your own community, helps you appreciate the diversity of thoughts and ideas in our society. Travel is a great way to get you out of your comfort zone, which is often the best place to identify your real values and needs in life, too.

#5. Be More Mindful

Living in the moment teaches you to appreciate life and all its everyday pleasures and curiosities. Paying full attention brings you into harmony with your environment and others and allows you to stay more connected to yourself and your needs, too.

#6. Explore the Deeper Meanings

When you see recurring patterns in your life, dig a little deeper. What do these tell you about your values, beliefs, and behaviors? How you can use this understanding to enhance your spirit and control your path forward? Awareness of these deeper meanings can help you feel happier and more at peace in life.

#7. Focus on the Positive

Thinking positively lifts your spirits as well as helping you consider alternatives to problems. Positivity helps you focus on what you want to achieve and what brings you joy and satisfaction in life, as well. Reframing your thoughts to be more positive is one way to enhance your spiritual wellness every day.

#8. Express Yourself

When you keep emotions or thoughts bottled up, it can cloud your mind and leave you feeling unsatisfied. Writing your feelings down or talking about them with a trusted partner or friend can help you clarify what is bothering you and how this connects to your values and beliefs.

#9. Try Yoga and Meditation

These activities are both based on mindfulness practices that reduce stress as well as emotional and physical strain, which can block your spiritual growth. These practices focus on teaching you to listen to your body, to quiet your mind, and to be present in the moment, all of which are healthy for your spiritual growth and development.

#10. Give Back

Giving back to others through donating time, money, or even blood can provide you with ways to align your values with your actions. Volunteering gives you a direct outlet to support your spiritual needs by attending to the needs of others in many ways.

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How to Choose You Every Day

In our ever-busy lives, we tend to put others and even tasks before ourselves. This results in depression, weariness, and fatigue. It drains our energy and our spirit. However, once you start choosing yourself, a magical change takes place.

We often wrongly think of taking ourselves into consideration as selfish, but those are two different things.

Taking care of yourself and your needs is not selfish, but rather extremely necessary. In this article, we hope to inspire you to start choosing you every single day of your life.

The Difference Between Choosing Yourself and Being Selfish
Choosing yourself on a daily basis is not selfish, but rather closer to self-care. By choosing to put yourself first when it’s necessary, you’re making the responsible and well-thought out choice to take care of yourself in a way that is necessary to ensure your health and positive quality of life.

Being selfish, on the other hand, is putting yourself before others on a regular basis because you see yourself as being more important. Selfishness is putting your own needs, wants, and beliefs over the needs, wants, beliefs, and sometimes even basic rights of others. See the stark difference?

Why Should You Start Choosing Yourself Every Day
Now that you understand that there’s nothing selfish about taking care of yourself, let’s get into why it is that you should start choosing yourself.

The biggest reason you should do this is because you are important and if you don’t start treating yourself that way, how can you expect anyone else to?

Beyond the basic need for you to take care of yourself and your health, choosing yourself every day can improve your mental health, improve your overall satisfaction with your life, and help you to seize opportunities.

It means saying no to things you don’t want to do or don’t feel right doing and saying yes to those challenges that might scare you but are good for you.

What Does Choosing Yourself Look Like
Choosing yourself involves making the conscious effort to examine your needs and, when reasonable, making the choice to put them before the wants of others. It’s similar to the idea of the oxygen masks on airplanes: you’re supposed to secure your own mask before you help a child with theirs.

The idea behind this is that if you’re incapacitated, the child wouldn’t be able to help you as much as you could help them if the reverse were true. The same concept is at play for choosing yourself: you can’t do your best and be your best if you don’t take care of yourself.

Choosing yourself takes self-reflection coupled with a diligent and dedicated effort to change the way you think and how you treat yourself.

It’s saying no to a situation, event, or activity that makes you feel uncomfortable. It’s realizing that you’re better off staying home and recharging your battery than going out one day.

Are You Ready to Start Choosing Yourself?
Making the effort to start choosing yourself is no easy feat. You have to be ready to commit to the challenge completely or not at all. It takes time to get adjusted to a new routine like this, but once you do, you’ll definitely start to see improvements in your overall happiness and physical and mental health.

It can help to reduce your stress and keep you from being overwhelmed, allowing you the time to recharge your battery instead of taking on every single task, project, or challenge that comes your way.

Make the decision to start choosing yourself every day, because if you don’t, who will?